Thank you for being a friend
This post is just as much for Moving Moms as it is for their friends – so please pass it on to the people who support you and bring you joy!
“There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.” – Mahatma Gandhi
It’s not easy to love a Moving Mom. We come and we go, sometimes with very little notice. We wander into your life and then, after a short time, we’re gone again. We are human – so we crave genuine friendships with caring people, just like everyone else. But the difference is that our time with you is temporary. So you have to decide: are you are willing to invest your time in a person who can only stick around for a short while?
And if you have kids, there’s even more at stake. It’s not just your adult heart that will ache when it’s time to part ways, but your child’s too.
Friends of transient families know that goodbyes are inevitable. It’s never easy to watch a dear friend leave. But what if you see the end coming before you even get to know someone?
This has been my life for 7 years and I have learned that it takes a very special person to befriend a Moving Mom. It’s like you’re asking a person to open their heart to you and your children knowing full well that your time together is limited.
So why bother? Why ask questions? Why introduce this nomad to your group of friends? Why invite them to your next party or ask them if they have plans for the holidays? Why should you put your heart on the line and have to grieve when a potentially amazing friend has to say farewell?
I don’t claim to know the answer. All I know is that in my experience, a rare few people are brave enough to do it. And I’m so grateful they do.
They open their hearts, their lives and their hometowns up to my family and welcome us like we will live next-door or across town forever. They don’t hold back. They love us fully for the time we are with them and accept our commitment to the company that requires us to leave. They don’t hand down the typical statements of “I could never do that,” or “I can’t imagine,” or “how do you kids handle that?” Instead they treat me like any other mom, include my kids in play dates and introduce us to their families. They embrace us completely.
And when the time finally comes and it’s time to pack up our things, these friends send us on our way with tears in their eyes and love in their hearts.
It’s not easy to love a Moving Mom. That’s why most people don’t bother. But to those of you who do – THANK YOU. We will not forget you or your kindness.
“Great friends are hard to find, difficult to leave and impossible to forget.”
-By Emily Shedek